I thought I was doing pretty good until the other day the kids were telling me something and I was absolutely shocked. They all looked at me with expressions of "Oh, brother!" Finally one said, "Mom, we told you this. You even answered and said...." What in the world?! Am I losing my mind? I've been claiming pregnancy brain for my forgetfulness for quite a while now, but that ship sailed away going on 5 years ago. Haha! Maybe I just wasn't attending when they had told me the last time.
I decided right then and there on the spot, that my listening skills simply must change! When they talk, I will listen. When they share, I'm diving in fully. When they ramble, I may usher them along with speed-it-along questions, but I am definitely going to hear with both ears. It's a bit time consuming, to be quite honest. While one is pouring out their heart, four others are in line awaiting, chores are piling up, texts and timers are being ignored, and life is going on. BUT I'm listening!
Have you ever been talking to someone while they are looking at their phone, or saying "uh-huh" mindlessly? Simply put...t's heartbreaking. Sure they may be listening and wanting you to talk, but in all seriousness, doesn't it totally feel like there is something much more pressing and urgent than anything you have to share? Doesn't it make you and what you are sharing seem trivial and insignificant?! Those kids are so exceptionally important to me; may I never be the cause of them feeling that way! Sure life is busy, but if they want me to hear something then I absolutely want to hear it...exactly when they need me to!
One of the things I love about prayer is that it happens exactly when you need it. God totally hears and encourages you to tell Him everything on your heart. He's not saying only do it at meals. Or hold that thought til right before bed. He's saying, tell me everything....always. What a comfort to know that my thoughts, my feelings, my daily happenings, my concerns, my thanksgivings, my fears, my sorrows....my everything is important and urgent to Him.
I want to be that kind of parent. I want them to know that I want to know everything. I want them to feel like no matter how mundane or important, I am waiting to hear and anxious for them to share. I hope when something stupendously joyful happens to them, they immediately think,
"Just wait til I tell mom." And I hope one of the first things they feel when they are in trouble or in a tight spot is not I hope mom doesn't find out, but "I totally need to tell my mom."
Life is too short to let all those other distractions take precedent. Open my ears, Lord, so I can hear.
